ext: Updated Pybind11 to version 2.4.1.

This updates Pybind11 from version 2.2.1 to version 2.4.1. This fixes
warning/error received when "<experiment/optional>" is used when
compiling using c++14 with clang. It should be noted that
"ext/pybind11/include/pybind11/std.h" has been changed to include a fix
added by commit ba42457254. This is
necessary to avoid build errors.

Built: Linux (gcc, c++11) and MacOS (clang, c++14).
Tested: Ran quick tests for X86, ARM, and RISC-V.
Deprecates: https://gem5-review.googlesource.com/c/public/gem5/+/21019
Change-Id: Ie9783511cb6be50136076a55330e645f4f36d075
Reviewed-on: https://gem5-review.googlesource.com/c/public/gem5/+/21119
Reviewed-by: Jason Lowe-Power <jason@lowepower.com>
Reviewed-by: Andreas Sandberg <andreas.sandberg@arm.com>
Maintainer: Jason Lowe-Power <jason@lowepower.com>
Maintainer: Andreas Sandberg <andreas.sandberg@arm.com>
Tested-by: kokoro <noreply+kokoro@google.com>

ext/pybind11/tests/test_embed/external_module.cpp

@@ -0,0 +1,23 @@
+#include <pybind11/pybind11.h>
+
+namespace py = pybind11;
+
+/* Simple test module/test class to check that the referenced internals data of external pybind11
+ * modules aren't preserved over a finalize/initialize.
+ */
+
+PYBIND11_MODULE(external_module, m) {
+    class A {
+    public:
+        A(int value) : v{value} {};
+        int v;
+    };
+
+    py::class_<A>(m, "A")
+        .def(py::init<int>())
+        .def_readwrite("value", &A::v);
+
+    m.def("internals_at", []() {
+        return reinterpret_cast<uintptr_t>(&py::detail::get_internals());
+    });
+}